Helping Your Child With Reading At Home

 So, I have a couple of opinions on this, so I'm just going to bullet a list and then I'll explain.

It totally depends on

• Their age.
• How your child reacts when you try to help them.
• How far behind they are.
• How motivated they are.
• How knowledgeable you are.
• How much time you have to devote to this.

Their Age

If your child is still young (pre-k to grade 1), there are a ton of activities you can do to help with reading. First and foremost? Read to him. Read together. Read picture books, and chapter books, and listen to novels together. Talk about the things that you are reading. If they don't understand one of the words, or if there is a difficult concept, stop reading and talk about it. 

Here is an article and video about Dialogic Reading. This is a great way to engage your child.

Here are a couple of Toolkits that have a wealth of information for early reading and supporting your child at home.

Supporting Students with Reading Needs

Supporting Your Child's Literacy Development 

The Florida Center for Reading Research (FCRR) has Student Center Activities that are broken out by grade level and skill. They even have a video series of how to do some of the activities with your kids at home. These are scripted and easy-to-follow lessons that are short, fun, and based on science.

There is also this resource from the Feds that is supposed to be easy to follow for Supporting Your Child's Reading At Home

How Your Child Reacts

When our son was young, I could help him, but as he got older and struggled even more he became very frustrated with me. In fairness to him though, I wasn't doing all the right things. I was maybe starting with things that were not the problem - like fluency. Fluency wasn't his problem. He was still struggling with connecting sounds to written letters.

So, if you have the money, my advice is to find a tutor. Someone who uses evidence-based practices and a good program. You can find information about local tutoring on the Local Resources Page. But in addition to that, look into Wilson Reading. You can ask them for a list of certified tutors in your state. Check the International Dyslexia Association for tutors. And, definitely consider the possibility of online tutoring. I wouldn't have considered it before COVID, but I think that people have really streamlined their practice and made it okay to do online instruction. 

How Far Behind They Are

If your child is older and they are really struggling (like my son who was reading at a first grade level in third grade), try to get a tutor.

Barring that, because the cost is often a barrier - Tutoring is NOT cheap. Go back to the things under the first section here. Look at Florida Center for Reading Research and the IES-funded things that give you some systematic instructional practices.

How Motivated They Are

My son lacks serious motivation, so I mostly have to do the heavy lifting to get him the instruction he needs. If the motivation struggle is REAL in your house, try audiobooks! Audiobooks at least help develop vocabulary and cultivate that love of books that everyone likes to talk about. Maybe start with the Percy Jackson series. Did you know that Percy Jackson, the character, has dyslexia and ADHD? THAT is relatable!

Access Hoopla Digital and Overdrive which are free with your library card and have tons of audiobooks and ebooks. 

How Knowledgeable You Are

Don't try to do more than you can. If you are not a teacher and you are overwhelmed by all the things that I'm talking about here, just read. Just, find a book and read it together. If you read all of it, that's fine, but read it out loud and talk about it together. This is a really wonderful way to encourage reading for understanding and seriously - every little bit helps. So, do what you can.

How Much Time You Have To Devote To This

Some days - read, most days - I'm exhausted from working and then I have to come home and make dinner, maybe I have to take someone to football practice, or to sword class. Some days I just don't have enough in me to deal with anything else. If your child is really struggling with reading, that can be a full-time job. But even just 5 minutes a night doing one of the FCRR activities or reading together, or listening to a book, these are all things that can contribute to better learning.

Stay strong out there...it's a jungle.

What If My Child Is Struggling With Reading in Kindergarten or First Grade?

 First - Is this just something that you have observed? Or has the teacher expressed concern as well?

If the teacher hasn't expressed concern, start by asking the teacher about your child's reading and tell her that you are concerned. Need some questions to ask?

Try these infographics for good questions to ask:

Route to Reading: Check for Potholes

Route to Reading: Do Regular Performance Checks 

If you are given things to do at home that don't seem to be right or that are not working for you, try this infographic:

Route to Reading: Avoid a Lemon

Or watch this video:

If your concern runs deeper than just thinking your child is struggling and you want the school to test your child, you will need to Request an Evaluation. You have to use that terminology and you have to do it in writing. 

Sidebar: I think that all coorespondance with the school should be in writing. It's the only way to track that things are happening (or not happening).

Here is a great little article from Understood.org that breaks down how to request a School Evaluation 

6 Steps for Requesting a School Evaluation

You know your child best. If you think something is wrong, there probably is. Maybe it's a learning disability, maybe it is the instruction that your child is receiving, but either way, it's important to act fast. Children who receive systematic evidence-based instruction and interventions in the earliest grades are less likely to fail or fall behind later (3rd or 4th grade) when teachers expect them to read to learn rather than learn to read.